I once read a brilliant Idea about a concept called the “worry list.” I Googled it and cannot find the reference. So please, if you’re the person that came up with the worry list and if you ever read this article, tell me who you are! Anyway, the idea is that you keep a list …
I have found that depression, anxiety, insecurity, and disappointment almost always stem from my expectations. Expectations can be good. But this article is about the down side of expectations. Depression: I found that my expectations of life were skewed. I would always look to the dark side of things. I would change my circumstances, but …
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I saw a recent search term on my site that read “feeling trapped in life”. Feeling trapped is another way of saying that you feel imprisoned. We try to come up with plans or ideas to get free, but we feel we can’t find any that will work. We feel like we are going nowhere. It …
Do you feel like your life is out of control? Below are steps to help you regain control of your life. List the areas of your life that are problems and write them down on paper - Writing things down is often enlightening to us. There is something about seeing your problems in print that brings …
So many people pressure themselves to live up to the expectations of others that they lose sight of their own life. They give and give to the point that they have no real life left. They are bitter at the ones that suck the life from them. I wish we could blame our unhappiness on …
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One of the search terms on my site was “what do people get when they try to put guilt on others”. The short answer is they get their way, or at least try to. This is a subject I am all too familiar with. People have several reasons for using guilt, but the result is …
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Often when we want something or someone so much it hurts, it is often due to the “fantasy” of having that someone or something. We imagine how much better our life will be if we could only have what we want. Often this fantasy is not based in reality. When we compare what we “think” …
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If you’re feeling trapped in life, you probably just think you are. The fact is, unless you’re in prison or limited physically for some reason, then you are not trapped. If you are in a job or marriage or some other kind of situation that makes you feel trapped, remember, you are choosing to stay in …
In his book “You can be happy, no matter what” Dr. Richard Carlson states that all circumstances are neutral. We assign value to them. That is why two people can look at the same situations and have completely different views of them. He uses the example of the circus coming to town. One person assigns …
According to the American Psychology Association “that about 25% of Americans are experiencing high levels of stress (rating their stress level as 8 or more on a 10-point scale), while another 50% report moderate levels of stress (a score of 4 to 7).” Personally I would consider a 7 on the stress scale as being …
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