I have found that depression, anxiety, insecurity, and disappointment almost always stem from my expectations. Expectations can be good. But this article is about the down side of expectations. Depression: I found that my expectations of life were skewed. I would always look to the dark side of things. I would change my circumstances, but …
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I saw a recent search term on my site that read “feeling trapped in life”. Feeling trapped is another way of saying that you feel imprisoned. We try to come up with plans or ideas to get free, but we feel we can’t find any that will work. We feel like we are going nowhere. It …
If you live with someone who suffers from bi-polar disorder, depression, or other mental illnesses, you may find this article helpful in understanding why the person you live with or have a relationship with acts the way they do when they are having an episode associated with their mental illness. Most of this article comes …
Do you feel like your life is out of control? Below are steps to help you regain control of your life. List the areas of your life that are problems and write them down on paper - Writing things down is often enlightening to us. There is something about seeing your problems in print that brings …
One method of eliminating fear is conditioning. The principle of conditioning has been around for a long time. One of the most known stories of conditioning is Pavlov’s Dog. Just before the dog was fed, a bell would be rung and then the dog was given food. After a time of doing this, the bell …
In his book “You can be happy, no matter what” Dr. Richard Carlson states that all circumstances are neutral. We assign value to them. That is why two people can look at the same situations and have completely different views of them. He uses the example of the circus coming to town. One person assigns …
First of all let’s be realistic. We will probably never rid ourselves totally and completely of the fear of what ALL others think of us. The opinions of people we love and respect mean something to us such as; family, friends, spouses, boss’s, co workers, people we want to ask out, and mentors. Now the …
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Progressive muscle relaxation techniques are not new. It is a great technique for stress and anxiety reduction. There are a lot of articles about how to do progressive muscle relaxation. You can also download podcasts that walk you through the process with relaxing music. I intend to cover the basics in this article so that …
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When you have a task that you feel you can’t accomplish because you feel you are too tired, sick, or having mental issues (depression, anxiety, worry….) then try a method which I use which I call “the next step”. It is not a new Idea; it’s simply is how I talk to myself. For instance …
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Anxiety and worry are really fear. Fear is an emotion, a feeling. It can be controlled just as any other feeling can be controlled. However, it does take practice. But as you practice confronting your fears, the stronger you will become. Fear is the parent of worry and anxiety. Think about it. You are worried that …